Girl Talk!
12/17/2014
What a weekend! As you know (or may not) I hosted the first ever WYC Girls Night! We had a great time! We played a few ice breaker games, talked about preparing for the future, style, fashion and of course boys! We had pizza, wings, cookies and candy! Not only was the food good but the conversation was good too! The girls ranged from 11-16 years old so you know they had some interesting questions. I can’t tell you the questions that were asked because everything that we talk about is confidential, but I can tell you what I talked about! I shared 3 important things with the girls that I KNOW will be helpful to you! 1. I asked the girls: Who are you? It’s important to know who you are so no one can tell you who they think you should be. Boys/people can’t manipulate you when you know who you are. Who you are has nothing to do with what you do but everything to do with your personality! The things you do right now can change, for example, if you say that you are a student what happens when you graduate? Will you still be a student? No, that’s not who you are, that is what you do temporarily. 2. Don’t let your emotions run your life! Girls are emotional by nature and it is important that we get our emotions in check! 99.9% of the time when we listen to our emotions it causes us to be lazy or do things that we like to do. No matter how much we try to deny or hide our emotions, we have them and there is nothing wrong with having emotions. The problem comes when we do everything we FEEL/DON’T feel like doing and not doing what God wants us to do. Here is an example: In the morning, when you wake up, you know you are supposed to make your bed but you don’t. Why? Because you don’t see a point when you are going to get back in it later!..right? (Was that just my way of thinking?... ANYWHOOO) You don’t make your bed because you don’t FEEL like it! You’re emotions are causing you to be lazy and they are pulling you away from doing what you know is the right thing to do. 3. Set short term goals. Not only is it important to know who you are and get control over your emotions, but you have to know where you are going. Once you know where you are going you won’t be easily persuaded by others to go in another direction because you already have it mapped out. Most importantly make sure you pray and listen to what God is telling you and where He is leading you. You can never go wrong when you do things God’s way! His plans are way better and bigger than ours and if God tells you to do something just know that you will be able to make it! XOXO Don't forget your confidence!
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People Change
12/3/2014
Is it that time of the month yet? You know? :wink wink:.. Ewww wait! Undo the wink wink! By “that time” I mean is it that time of the month for change, NOT whatever you were thinking! LOL Change is good! I am one of the few people I know that like change (when it suites me.. LOL) I love changing my clothes! I love changing my nail color and I love changing my hairdo too! I don’t know about you, but I really love changing my undies! I love the different patterns and colors and little sayings…. I digress. ANYWHOO! As I was saying, change is good. We should all embrace it and go confidently through the “change process.” As the year comes to an end don’t fight the changes you may come across, especially if you have no control over it. For example, the weather, it changes all of the time. Please don’t try and fight the snow or punch the cold wind in the face! You can’t fight the time, and you can’t fight the fact that your body changes without your permission. With all of this change happening all around you it’s important to remember that not only are you changing but the people around you are too. People change, that’s a part of life. Some people change for the better and some for the worst. We should all try to embrace the positive change. I should warn you. Sometimes, when people change, they distance themselves from others in order to get their thoughts and life in order. Don’t hate them for their “change process,” it takes time. Change really is a process. Some people change quickly, while others take a looong time. I mean a looong time. It is not your job or mine to hurry the change process. People change in God’s time. Everything happens in God’s time! Do you want a situation in your life to change? A parent? A friend? A relationship? Maybe you want to change! Be patient, pray and wait. Don’t complain, but give thanks to God for the change that is on the way! Put your confidence in God and know that whatever you need changed, will change IN GOD’S TIME! *Keep the faith and don’t forget your confidence XOXO, Cherise Social Media Blues
11/26/2014
Let’s keep it real! We all want to be liked, accepted and have thousands of followers on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Vine etc. etc. We tell people to follow us on Twitter and leave comments like #f4f or #follow4follow, #s4s, #like4life, in hopes that we get more followers. We download apps that claim to get us hundreds of followers. And when people don’t follow us we feel some type of way. Some of us may get mad and start to unfollow those who don’t follow us back. We unfollow people who don’t like our pics and we download apps that tell us who unfollowed us. (half of the time we don’t even know the p person in “real-life” but we can’t have it mess up or numbers). We get bent out of shape, depressed and we started to feel like crap because we don’t have enough likes on a picture or a FB status THAT YOU KNOW was HOT! We judge ourselves based on a number! We wait for certain times of the day to post pics because we know that’s when we will get the most likes! That’s really sad, but it is the heartbreaking, disgusting truth of this world that we live in. Your following-to-followers ratio must be equal or less?! You should never be following MORE people than those who follow you?! You can’t follow a person who has less than 100 followers? Who made up these rules? Why do we allow a computer, cell phone, an app define who we are? Do you not know that you are MORE than the likes and the follows you get on social media? Those people who you are craving attention from really don’t care about you. They like what you post and will either double tap your pic, hit the like button or retweet your post…. Or they will keep on scrolling. Recently I deleted my IG and decided to start all over (@CheriseStyles, just in case you want to follow LOL)! I wanted a new start, new followers and a new look. So I challenged myself and instead of deleting all of my 500+ pix and changing my name I decided to take it all down! :GASP: That meant I lost all of my 500+ followers, all my pics, likes and comments. Can I tell you that doing that was hard? I like likes! I would jokingly tell my sister that I live for the likes. Sadly, some of that was true. I’m not going to lie, when I would upload a picture I expected to get likes and when I didn’t I would feel some type of way. I would go back and delete pictures that didn’t get enough likes in a certain amount of time! LOL It was bad! I know I am not the only one! We all watch numbers! It doesn’t matter if you are a girl, boy, young or old you want THE LIKES! Now that I have started my new IG page I’m like ok.. where are the followers and where are my likes!? I found myself getting upset about it, but then I had to realize these people that I want to like me and follow me do not add or take away WHO I AM! Having a tiny bit of followers does not mean I am a tiny, unimportant person. Just like having a million followers does not mean you are someone important. Your identity is not found in Facebook, IG or Twitter! Your identity is found in Christ! Jesus came and died for you because He loves you! God has accepted you! His love never stops and you don’t even have to post a picture for Him to like you! You may not follow God but He still loves you! You probably unfollowed God at one point in your life but He still likes…better yet, He still loves you! God supports you and says that you are somebody special! You do not have to look for approval because God approves you and accepts you for who you are! Stop worrying about the likes, the followers and the comments and continue to follow God. When people start to see God in you then they will start to follow you. It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with God! Don’t get the social media blues. Always remember you have the creator of Heaven and earth rooting for you! XOXO, Cherise Sidebar: follow WYC on IG, TWITTER @WearConfidence and like the FB page! LOL And follow me on IG and Twitter @CheriseStyles (I follow back) Feel free to comment leaving your IG and Twitter info below!! *Don’t forget your confidence I Have A Confession...
11/18/2014
I, CHERISE, have a confession! Are you ready for it?I have become a fan of leggings! Not so much the solid colors. *NOT YET ANYWAY!* But, the different prints! I’m starting to think out of my normal closet. You can do a ton of stuff with leggings! They can be worn with a dress, with shorts or with a long shirt AAAAANDD.. a BLAZER and skirt! I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE BLAZERS!!! Please make sure the bootay is covered. You know how I feel about this, if not here it goes: Ladies, we are all proud of the junk in the trunk! IF NOT, embrace it! But please cover the rear end along with the front because simply and boldly put: WE DO NOT WANT TO SEE YOUR CAMEL TOE! *that is the wedgie in the front* Let’s not give “them” anything negative to talk about or draw any attention to parts of our body that would make us and others uncomfortable. Long shirts do the trick! LONG, not a T-shirt! When you bend over be careful the crack does not get exposed, when you lift your hands make sure the front is secure as well. Sometimes it is hard being a girl but don’t let that stop you from wearing cute clothes. Please make sure you do the proper checks before you walk out the house: 1. Bend over check. -Making sure when you bend over or reach for something people do not get a peek at your plumbers crack. 2. Frontal Check - Camel toes are covered and are hidden. (As a matter of fact let’s not have front wedgies at all, that can lead to health issues… EEEK!) 3. Boob Check -Keep the cookies in the cookie jar. You want people to give you eye contact, not boob contact. If you are able to keep the cookies tamed try your best to. Always remember camis are your friend. After you have done your 3 checks wear the leggings with confidence knowing that you won’t have any wardrobe malfunctions but that you also look good! XOXO *Don't forget your confidence You Can Have The "Perfect Body."
11/12/2014
The latest Victoria’s Secret ad shows 10 beautiful women posed in lingerie with the words, “The Perfect ‘Body’” in bold, in front of fit, slim models. You’re probably asking yourself what’s the big deal; it’s just Victoria’s Secret, that’s what they do? Well, what if I told you that this very ad caused uproar in the United Kingdom. Many feel that this ad was sending a negative body image to the rest of the world. I have to say that I 100% agree. I am not going to bash Victoria’s Secret and the way they advertise. That’s not my thing. I am aware of their Body by Victoria bras and I know this ad is selling the “perfect” bra, but the models behind the words “The Perfect ‘Body’” are what make me feel …. (I don’t know how I feel right now). It’s not fair to the millions of girls and women who see this and feel inadequate. Yes, I know, life is not fair blah, blah, blah cry me a river, but I still feel some type of way. Yes, I felt weird, my head tilted to the side and I squinted a bit (the same way a dog does when it’s confused). Yes! Me, feeling weird. Don’t think that because I am skinny that I don’t feel feelings when I see ads like this. We all have insecurities and flaws, things we want to change but can’t. To be honest, many of you want to look like these models when these models don’t even look like these models! You fall in love with fake, photoshopped images. Ok, back to the ad. In response to the ad a New York City-based retailer created a positive parody of the ad produced by VS. I love it! This picture represents real women and real bodies! *Scroll down to see the image* Advertisements are here to promote their product by any means necessary. They are not here to make you feel good about yourself, boost your confidence or say things that are correct (THAT’S WHAT I’M HERE FOR). It is about money, sales and how often people are sharing and talking about their product. That is why it is so important to NOT base your importance on what you see in the media. You have to love yourself! Who cares if the ad is subliminally telling us what the perfect body is or looks like? It is up to us girls, ladies and women to not be affected, not compare ourselves and not hate on the models or other people we see in the ads. They are doing a job. We have to know who we are, accept it and be confident that God didn’t make any mistakes when He created us. Maybe if enough of us speak up about the unfair advertisements maybe, just maybe there will be a change, until then we have to know who we are, accept our flaws and love every single nook and cranny about ourselves and our bodies! It is up to you and me to feel accepted and loved. God loves and accepts you! When He sent Jesus to die on the cross for you that was out of love! Who else do you know would willingly die for you? God created you in His image! You can’t let other people, advertisements or your Facebook friends define you or tell you what the "Perfect Body" is! The truth is your body is the perfect body! Don't be fooled! Let God tell you who you are! You are so much more than you think! *Don’t forget your confidence What are your thoughts on the ad? (Survey) Click here to read the article. There is HOPE!
11/5/2014
It seems as though you girls (and guys) have been enjoying my blogs. Is it safe for me to say that? I hope so because I already said it. This post is a bit different from my others. I was debating if I should make this a blog post or just post it on Facebook, but then I thought to myself, THIS IS MY BLOG and I can do pretty much whatever I want lol. So here it is: I have been thinking about taking this blog public! Yes, this blog is already public, it’s on the Internet! What I mean is I want to take this to magazines! Seventeen, Teen Vogue, Glamour, InStyle etc. etc. SPECIFICALLY SEVENTEEN! I wrote a letter to the editor of Seventeen pitching my idea of having an advice column for girls and women to ask questions about confidence, self-esteem, dating and every issues that girls face etc. etc. This column would also include girls sending in pics of their own personal style as well me showing my wardrobe and personal style and encouraging them to be confident in their skin. The thing that would make my column stick out from the rest is that the advice I’d give would include a faith-based approach, so yeah, I would be talking about God. They rejected my idea, however, they wrote me back and said to keep sending them more ideas. I was a bit disappointed BUT I was excited at the same time and I actually thanked God that they even WROTE ME BACK! The column would be called, Confidence and Style with Cherise Styles (that’s what I have for now. If I come up with a better name I will let you know.). Why the name “Cherise Styles”? Because that’s what I love! I love my style! I love dressing up and dressing down it’s how I express myself! I am confident enough to wear what I want and not care about opinions or looks! Clothes don’t make people, people make clothes! I don’t like dressing and looking like everyone else. I don’t follow fashion trends because I don’t like people telling me what I should wear or not to wear (that’s the rebel in me). Ok, back to the point of this post. I NEED YOUR HELP! God gave me the idea to have my supporters to SUPPORT me in my efforts to get this blog international! Let’s take Wear Your Confidence mainstream! If this blog has ever encouraged you, empowered you, made you think, feel accepted, loved, made you laugh or cry then I am asking that you sign a petition to get this blog in a SEVENTEEN magazine! I am asking for 1,000 signatures! I don’t know 1,000 people so that is why I NEED YOU ladies to post, share, retweet, blog, IG etc, etc to get the word out! We can do this before the year it out (December 31, 2014)! THIS WOULD BE A GREAT CHRISTMAS GIFT! IJS This is what you have to do in order to sign the petition: 1.) Comment ON THIS BLOG on the www.wearyourconfidence.com website NOT FACEBOOK. 2.) Write your NAME (FIRST AND LAST NAME) 3.) Write your ZIP CODE **IN THE COMMENT BOX 4.) Write your EMAIL ADDRESS (so I know your real) **IN THE COMMENT BOX 5.) IF this blog has encouraged you in ANY WAY please include that too! THAT’S IT! Your post should look something like this: “Cherise Styles, 12345, wyctv1@gmail.com I have been empowered ever since reading the blogs from Cherise Styles! This blog needs to be in your magazine and read all over the world!” Thank you so much for the support! Let’s make history. Please sign and share this post! Let’s get 1,000 signatures by December 31, 2014! I can’t do it without you! *Don’t Forget Your Confidence and Don’t Forget To Sign and SHARE! XOXO What Is This For?
10/29/2014
Oh em Gee! I have a million and one things to do and I don’t know when I’m going to do it or how I am going to do it or what to do first,. I have work, school, church, Wear Your Confidence, meetings, readings, studying, I’m writing blogs, reading books that people never heard of, more studying, organizing and planning for the future! But wait! Let me take a selfie! AHHH! On top of that I still have to squeeze in time with family, friends and myself! Am I the only one doing something? How about you? Are you busy “doing” as well? Does school, practice, rehearsals, homework, writing papers and studying take up your time too? Well, it feels good to know that I am not alone! We are not alone! :Singing: You are not alone.. I am here with you! Sometimes we get so stinkin’ busy doing things when we finally get a break we ask, “What am I doing this for?” Sometimes we feel as if we are the only ones working and everyone is playing and having fun and enjoying life! We sometimes feel all alone, like we are by ourselves and we are doing all of this for nothing. We are in school, we study, we get good grades, for what though? Is it to get into college and do the same thing over again? We work, we work, we work. We plan, we plan, we plan, we dream, we dream, we dream, we do and do and do. We dodo! I digress. But you see my point? We do ALL of this stuff, we make progress, we are on our way but still feel like we are doing all of this for nothing. Why? Why do we feel this way? If you have ever felt this way, I have some good new s for you! THIS IS NORMAL! The devil is trying to get you off course! So he will make you doubt yourself, question your abilities and even make you feel insecure! You have goals and dreams and the devil will try to do any and every thing to stop you from accomplishing them! It is not our job to know everything! God has plans for us and God’s ways are way better than ours. What we have to do is keep on going, planning, reaching, studying, and practicing! We cannot give up! Don’t give up because things are not going as fast as you would like. Before you know it you will be out of school and on to the next phase of life. It is all a process and you are not alone. God is with you every step of the way! There are millions of girls who feel this way! Shoot! Sometimes I feel this way! We just have to remember that we are on the right path and we can’t give up! We have to be confident in our God-given abilities and keep on going. It’s not always going to be easy, so make sure you keep some positive friends around to talk some sense into when you feel like giving up! Don’t have any positive friends? Email me at wyctv1@gmail.com, comment below, let’s stay connected and walk this thing out together! When you feel unsure about where you are going in life, remember Jeremiah 29:11 "I know the plans I have in mind for you, declares the Lord; they are plans for peace, not disaster, to give you a future filled with hope." XOXO, Don’t Forget Your Confidence Weirdos Make The World Go 'Round!
10/22/2014
Have you ever felt out of place, like you just don’t belong? No matter where you go you just don’t feel like you “fit in”? I know I have. To be honest, I feel like that about 99.9% of the time. I’m different, weird, and quirky. At times I am loud, others times I am quiet, sometimes I sing instead of talk, other times I talk in weird voices during regular conversations (Don’t judge me). That is just who I am and I am consistent with my self-proclaimed weirdness. Seriously though, I often feel like I don’t fit in. I don’t know if it has to do with the fact that I’m a 5’10 and ¾ of pure skinty AMAZON (yes, I said SKINTY) with size 11 feet or the fact that I am really contemplative and observant so I don’t speak a lot in public, or the fact that I am a semi-introvert with extrovert tendencies. NO MATTER what it is, that is just how I feel! I can only imagine that there are several of you who feel the same way. You don’t think, look or act like anyone you know. There might be a very people that you connect with, are friends with who are similar to you but when you get down to the nitty gritty, the core, the heart of the matter we are all different. If we all “fit in” and were the same life would be boring. There would be no funny, weird or awkward moments. We would be like robots, knowing each other’s next move. We would look the same, act the same, and talk the same. WOMP! WOMP! WOMP! BOOORING!!! This world needs diversity! This world needs you, your personality, your uniqueness, your weird, quirky, awkward personality! Why? Because you make life fun and worth living! We are misfits! We don’t fit in any mold! We create the mold! We are leaders! Even Paul, from the Bible, could relate. He did not fit in and he did not do what everyone did. Instead, he encouraged those around him who felt the same way. In a way, I want to do the same thing. People will not understand you; they will make fun of you, mock you and make you feel like there is something wrong with you for being the way you are. I am not saying all of this to make you feel bad. I tell you this because I love you and I do not want you to stop being you. God created you this way for a reason! You make this life worth living! Keep on being you! No one can BE you like YOU! Accept who you are and as always… *Don’t Forget Your Confidence A Letter To My Body...
10/15/2014
For all of the times I hurt you, talked about you, criticized you, compared you to others and downright hated you, I am truly sorry. I paraded you around like a piece of candy. I dressed you in ways that were inappropriate, in ways that allowed others access to your secret and sacred parts. I gave you to people that did not love you, that could not love you the way you needed to be loved. People touched you and hurt you and you had no control over it… and I am sorry. For all of the times that I looked at you and despised the height, width, curves, dimples, freckles that you possess, I am sorry. I hurt you, cut you, starved you, forced you into tight clothes, hid you behind baggy clothes. I bleached you, tanned you, pierced you and marked you with permanent ink. I enlarged you, stretched you, picked you, squeezed you and broke you down. I pushed you to the edge, overexerted you, and took away your sleep and rest. I made you feel worthless, unimportant, unloved and unappreciated. I failed to realize that you are not a part of me but in fact you are me… my body. I am my body. I failed to realize that I am a beautiful creation. I was created by Greatness! God breathed life into me! My body is perfect, if I choose to believe it or not that is up to me! I took myself for granted and never thanked myself for still loving me when at times, I hated me. I kept going! I survived. There was something in me that would not allow me to stop, slow down or quit. I am stronger than I thought and after all I put myself through God still loves me and wants more from me! God loves this body, this body is fearfully and wonderfully made! This body survived the hate, ridicule, hurt and torment that was inflicted by others. Today I choose to celebrate my body! I will no longer hide you and make you feel less than perfect. I will no longer talk bad about you and cause you to melt down. I will honor you and keep you safe. I realize that you and I are one; together we will work in harmony and continue to love when we don’t want to. We will love when it seems like we can’t love anymore. I will love you and you will love me. We are survivors and we are a team! Today, I realize that you are a gift, a perfect, beautiful, gift from God! I realize that the things about you that I consider flaws are what make you unique. I accept you! I will no longer allow everyone access to you. I will protect you to the best of my ability. I will stand up for you, I will compliment you, I will respect you because you are not just a part of me, you are me. For all of the times I hurt you, I am sorry. From this day forward I will wear my confidence and accept the things I can’t change about you, I love you and I know that I am great because God does not make mistakes! XoXo, Cherise * Share this letter with any girl or woman you know who may need to be reminded that their body is beautiful. The Walking Dead
10/8/2014
Are you among the millions of people who are fans of the hit show The Walking Dead? You know Lori, Glenn Rhee, Daryl Dixon and OH EM GEE Rick Grimes!? I can’t believe another season is back! Can you? To be honest, I haven’t seen an episode, I know I know, I am probably missing out on something but if you haven’t seen an episode you most likely have heard people talking about the show at one point. If not, you can assume that the show has to deal with zombies, people who are dead but are walking around as though they are not. Did you know that millions of people are “walking dead?” These people seem to be ok. They walk, talk, look and dress “normal”, just like you. What if I told you that you come across the walking dead every single day? Yes, you see dead people! What if I told you that you might be one of those who are “walking dead.” Yes YOU! Walking dead! Did you know that more than “350 million people of all ages suffer from depression,” or as I like to call it “the walking dead syndrome” and more women are affected than men? (http://www.who.int/mediacentre/factsheets/fs369/en/) Depression can be mild, moderate or severe. People who suffer from depression experience a loss of interest and enjoyment in the things they liked to do. They also have low energy which leads to a decrease in activity. (http://www.who.int/mediacentre/factsheets/fs369/en/) People with depression also experience disturbed sleep, loss of appetite and may also experience feelings of guilt or low-self worth and poor concentration. People who suffer from depression usually suffer for long periods of time, it is not a one day episode or sorrow. Depression is a serious issue and many times those who are depressed suffer in silence because they can’t express what it is they are feeling. Depression is a common illness worldwide which can result from a wide range of factors (for example, emotional, mental as well as life situations). Many times we pretend that everything is fine, we wake up, get dressed and go to school while on the inside we feel horrible. We feel like there is a dark cloud over our heads. There is something that is bothering us deep down, something that is eating away at us, and many of us don't say anything. I just want to let you know that you are not alone and you should not be afraid to tell someone you can trust what you are dealing with. If you have a friend that you feel might be depressed you should talk to them and have them talk to a professional who can better help. I am not a medical professional or a therapist, however, I do know that prayer does work. There was a king in the bible by the name of David who was “troubled” greatly, he would “mourn” all day long and “groan because of the turmoil” in his heart (Psalm 38:6,8). To me, it sounds like David was depressed. So what did David do? I am glad you asked! David prayed! In Psalm 38 David poured out his heart to God, he told God that he felt alone, abandoned and that he could not take it anymore. David asks that God would help him with all that he was dealing with. David knew that only God could help him in his time of trouble. David didn’t want to be a “walking dead” man any longer. You don’t have to be either. If you are not depressed but you are sad or feel lonely you can always pray. Prayer is just talking to God. So pray! Please don’t get me wrong…I am not saying that you should not seek medical help. Sometimes medication is needed depending on how severe a person’s situation is. Whether you have to take medication or not, you should still pray and remember that all things are possible with GOD! God can heal your depression! I pray that God will help you with whatever feelings or situation you might be facing or dealing with today. I pray that God will speak to your heart and that you feel His love like never before. I want you to know that you are not alone and you are not crazy for feeling the way you feel. Don’t suffer alone. You do not have to. I pray that your situation will get better and that God will continue to surround you with love and peace of mind. Keeping praying, keep smiling and keep on wearing your confidence because it will get better! Amen! *Don’t forget your confidence XOXO, Cherise For immediate help or to speak with someone please call: DepressionCrisis Call Center 800-273-8255 or text ANSWER to 839863 Twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week http://crisiscallcenter.org/crisisservices.html Depression and Bipolar Support 800-273-TALK (8255) Twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week http://www.dbsalliance.org National Hopeline Network 800-SUICIDE (784-2433) 800-442-HOPE (4673) Twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week http://www.hopeline.com Crisis Center and Hotlines Locator by State http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/getinvolved/locator Suicide Prevention Services Depression Hotline 630-482-9696 Twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week http://www.spsamerica.org |
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