Let’s keep it real! We all want to be liked, accepted and have thousands of followers on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Vine etc. etc. We tell people to follow us on Twitter and leave comments like #f4f or #follow4follow, #s4s, #like4life, in hopes that we get more followers. We download apps that claim to get us hundreds of followers. And when people don’t follow us we feel some type of way. Some of us may get mad and start to unfollow those who don’t follow us back. We unfollow people who don’t like our pics and we download apps that tell us who unfollowed us. (half of the time we don’t even know the p person in “real-life” but we can’t have it mess up or numbers). We get bent out of shape, depressed and we started to feel like crap because we don’t have enough likes on a picture or a FB status THAT YOU KNOW was HOT! We judge ourselves based on a number! We wait for certain times of the day to post pics because we know that’s when we will get the most likes! That’s really sad, but it is the heartbreaking, disgusting truth of this world that we live in. Your following-to-followers ratio must be equal or less?! You should never be following MORE people than those who follow you?! You can’t follow a person who has less than 100 followers? Who made up these rules?
Why do we allow a computer, cell phone, an app define who we are? Do you not know that you are MORE than the likes and the follows you get on social media? Those people who you are craving attention from really don’t care about you. They like what you post and will either double tap your pic, hit the like button or retweet your post…. Or they will keep on scrolling.
Recently I deleted my IG and decided to start all over (@CheriseStyles, just in case you want to follow LOL)! I wanted a new start, new followers and a new look. So I challenged myself and instead of deleting all of my 500+ pix and changing my name I decided to take it all down! :GASP: That meant I lost all of my 500+ followers, all my pics, likes and comments. Can I tell you that doing that was hard? I like likes! I would jokingly tell my sister that I live for the likes. Sadly, some of that was true. I’m not going to lie, when I would upload a picture I expected to get likes and when I didn’t I would feel some type of way. I would go back and delete pictures that didn’t get enough likes in a certain amount of time! LOL It was bad! I know I am not the only one! We all watch numbers! It doesn’t matter if you are a girl, boy, young or old you want THE LIKES! Now that I have started my new IG page I’m like ok.. where are the followers and where are my likes!? I found myself getting upset about it, but then I had to realize these people that I want to like me and follow me do not add or take away WHO I AM! Having a tiny bit of followers does not mean I am a tiny, unimportant person. Just like having a million followers does not mean you are someone important. Your identity is not found in Facebook, IG or Twitter! Your identity is found in Christ! Jesus came and died for you because He loves you! God has accepted you! His love never stops and you don’t even have to post a picture for Him to like you! You may not follow God but He still loves you! You probably unfollowed God at one point in your life but He still likes…better yet, He still loves you! God supports you and says that you are somebody special! You do not have to look for approval because God approves you and accepts you for who you are!
Stop worrying about the likes, the followers and the comments and continue to follow God. When people start to see God in you then they will start to follow you. It has nothing to do with you and everything to do with God!
Don’t get the social media blues. Always remember you have the creator of Heaven and earth rooting for you!
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