The biggest loser!

The Biggest Loser!

No, I am not talking about weight loss. That is the last thing I need to lose. If you have been following me or the Wear Your Confidence page you will know that we have started The Accepted Reject Campaign.

The What?

The Accepted Reject Campaign (AR)! An online community where girls AND women can come together and heal from past hurts AKA rejection! We started January 1st and I have been posting videos every Monday on different topics to help you and the world overcome this ugly thing called rejection. If you didn’t know, rejection is like the devil. It comes to steal, kill and destroy your joy, peace and self-esteem. The reason why it has the power to do this is because WE (yes, I include myself), WE have allowed it. (OUCH!) Deep down we have a teenie tiny lack of self-esteem. Think about it. Keep it 100, keep it a bean! If we truly believed that we were good enough then the opinion of others would not matter. We would allow the rejection to roll off of our shoulders and keep it moving. The rejection would not hurt AS MUCH. It would not have a diabolical effect on us.

I had to face that harsh reality. I got offended with myself! How could I, Cherise, Ms. Confidence herself have an issue with self-esteem? (HA!) I am not immune to any of this stuff. I don’t know who I thought I was. The truth of the matter is I feel the “attack” more because I am the “face” of Wear Your Confidence. When I tell you the struggle is real…IT IS WAY REAL!

REWIND!

I hear you asking, “What do you mean by attack?” What I mean is my self-esteem and confidence have been tested in a great way. Since the start of the campaign I have been filled with so much doubt and questions and uncertainty. It’s crazy! ON TOP OF THAT a butt load of rejection, a gazillion no’s and a crap load of watching from the sidelines.  I can only speak for myself but when I’m having a low day it would seem that everyone around me was SUPER HAPPY, GETTING STUPID BLESSINGS and I’m over here like a turd in a toilet that someone forgot to flush (please excuse all of my poop references, but I hope you get where I am coming from).

It was in those times that I had two choices! I could either stay in my pitty party, stay depressed, look at myself in the mirror as I cried (like you have never done that!), just quit and hate my life OR I could remember who the heck I was, wipe my tears and remember what I stand for and what it is that I teach! I had to speak life! Sometimes I had to speak through the tears but nonetheless I was speaking. I am a child of a King! You’re a child of the KING! Nothing in life is perfect. Life is messy. Are you going to play ball or are you going to shrivel up in a ball and hide?

Let me be 100% honest and transparent. During those rock bottom times the last thing I want to do is talk, text, pray, or smile. If I want to talk I want to cuss and punch people in the face. I want to stay in bed and cry and complain. That’s what I want to do. That is what I am inclined to do. Over the years, I have gotten waaaay better. The cussing is down to a minimum and it’s not to anyone’s face (NEVER HAS BEEN, I’M NOT A REAL G. PRAY FOR ME). The pity parties are timed. I learned that from my mentor. No longer than 20 minutes! It is ok to cry! (I also learned that from her). But then you have to dust yourself off and get back to work.
Perception is everything! When you are low/in your bag/feeling like poop on a stick, it SEEMS like everyone is doing big things but they really aren’t (SIKE). Some people are doing great things, but you have to keep in mind what YOU really seeing. ESPECIALLY on social media! We only see the highlight reel. You don’t know what a person is dealing with. You don’t know what battles they are facing in real life. They could appear to be happy but they take pills to go to sleep, they could suffer from an illness, a dysfunctional home, they could even be severely depressed.

LIFE IS REAL and SO ARE THE STRUGGLES!

That is the reason why I created The Accepted Reject Campaign! I knew that I wasn’t the only one who had been rejected, hurt and struggling with self-esteem and confidence issues. I knew I wasn’t the only one that has asked themselves, “What is wrong with me?” 

I OVERCAME and I AM OVERCOMING!

There are days when you and I will get down and discouraged but we have to make up in our mind to NOT stay down. We have to speak life and kick rejection in the face! How do we do this? By knowing who you are and how valuable you are to your life and the life of others. Do you know how much you’re worth? Let me tell you girl! You are worth more than all the money in the world and more precious than any rare ruby, or diamond. That is a lot! Don’t you ever forget that!

NOW WHAT?

With all of that being said I really hope that you would join The Accepted Reject Campaign! You are not too old or too young to join. Simply subscribe to the YouTube channel and turn on the notifications. Like the Wear Your Confidence page on Facebook and turn on those notifications as well. (WE LIVE BABY!)

I’d love to hear from you as well! We are in this together! You are not alone and with my help and God’s, you are going to overcome rejection!
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XOXO,
Cherise
Don’t Forget Your Confidence