When You Are Ready To Hulk Smash Someone...

We have all been there. As the singer Monica would say, “It’s just one of those days that a girl goes through.” You know the type of day I am talking about. You wake up in the morning and you feel out of place. You look in the mirror and you hate what you see. You don’t want to talk to anyone and you don’t want to be bothered. It’s just one of those days.

The crazy thing is you look exactly as you did yesterday but for some reason nothing feels right, looks right or fits right and if someone even looks at you the wrong way you just might turn green, and transform into the Incredible Hulk and rip their head off! It sounds extreme now but when you are in the moment it seems pretty rational. It’s days like this that people would assume that it’s “that time of the month” or you are PMSing. But no, It’s just one of those weird days that all of us girls have (okay, it might be that time of the month, so what). Sometimes our hormones get the best of us and we overreact, are easily angered, feel horrible about ourselves and doubtwhat we do and what we want to accomplish all at the same time. Girls are naturally emotional and it does not take much to trigger an emotion in us whether it is a positive or negative emotion.

You cannot get rid of the hormones that trigger your emotions but you can control how you respond and react when you feel certain emotions trying to takeover. You can have control of your emotions! When you take control of your emotions people won’t be afraid to talk to you or ask you questions. You will not be labeled as a ticking time bomb or worse, The Incredible Hulk!

How can you control your emotions? Well, I am so glad you asked honey! I have a list that I’d like to call:

CHECK YOSELF (yes, YO-self!) Before you Wreck YOSELF and KILL YOSELF and YO Friends..

(I might have to work on the name of this list, but in the meantime, here are 4 tips to help you control those crazy emotions.)
1. Call It Out! When you start to feel an emotion rise up that is negative, recognize how you are feeling. You may have to stop and say, “Ok, I am starting to feel angry.” Do not just go from 0-100 (don’t be like Drake), meaning don’t be so quick to lose your cool. Identify your feelings and name them.
2. Count to 50! When emotions rise they will either draw you to or pull you away from something. Before you act, count! Count to 50 and stop what you are doing. Sit somewhere and calm down.
3. Count the cost. Think about how your emotional response or action will affect you, your day and those around you. Pray! Ask God to help you to calm down.
4. Counter-attack! Speak positively about yourself and tell your emotions that YOU are in control!

When you wake up on the wrong side of bed and your emotions are all out of whack, tell yourself how you are feeling, and as you walk to the bathroom count to 50 and think about how your day will be affected if you allow yourself to continue to feel the way you do and pray, asking God for help. Lastly, look at yourself in the mirror and tell those emotions to beat it!

You have dreams to fulfill and goals to accomplish! Tell those emotions you are the boss and they have to get out of the way. After you have done that smile, put on your confidence and walk out of the door!

Don’t forget your confidence!

XOXO,

Cherise

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