We all have something that we've been meaning to start, write, create, produce or do. That dream or goal that you've had for a long time but just aren't doing. Stop it! Making excuses as to why you can't or why you aren't is not gonna cut it anymore! You have everything you need to START. I know, getting started can be the hardest part because if we're honest, pursing a dream is a risk! It can be scary to step out and try!
But what if I told you that it's not what you don't have, but what you do have that's holding you back?
You know, that friend that shows up right around the time you decide to go for it. She shows up when it's time to work on your business plan or write your first draft of the book. This is the friend that loves you just the way you are and wants you to stay right where you are forever. This is the friend that calls right when you need someone to talk you out of your enormous ideas.
You reach for her when the thought of success makes you feel uncomfortable.
She's there to remind you why you couldn't last time, just in case you forgot. And because she’s such a pal that she's also there to remind you of what others might say should you decide to go for it. She lives super close and you take her with us wherever you go.
Her name is Fear.
There are some friends that we have in our lives that are in our lives for a time period and for whatever reason we grow apart. There are other friends that you connect for a while until you realize they're not adding a thing to your life! So you go ahead and distance yourself.
But then there are some friends…
Who you've know FOREVER and they've been with you through thick and thin, always present and you don't remember a moment or time period in your life without them. But there comes a time sometimes where we have to acknowledge when we've outgrown some of our oldest friends.
Everyone has some sort of relationship with fear. It's either healthy or unhealthy. A healthy relationship with fear doesn't prevent you from moving forward or alter your thought patterns. An unhealthy relationship with fear paralyzes you. This is when fear controls the decisions you make. It affects your perception of your reality.
No one wants that.
And you don't have to have that! Here are four easy to remember steps to unfriending fear once and for all.
1. Forget your mistakes – Just like we all have fear sometimes, we all make mistakes sometimes! And believe it or not, some of our fear comes from reminding ourselves of the mistakes we've made. You remind yourself how things went horribly wrong the last time and how you hated the way you felt, so the fear of a repeat kicks in. There's a saying that says “you live and you learn.” It's true! Don’t let the mistakes that you've made in the past prevent you from moving forward! Make the mistake in to a lesson and keep on going!
2. Evaluate your NOW – Believe it or not you have come a long way! The last time you were afraid to go, do, or say whatever it was, you found a way to overcome! In the life of a confident girl, moments of fear is temporary. Look at where you are and realize that it took courage to get you there! That should encourage you to keep it up because you are your own proof that you can do it!
3. Accept your awesome – Unfriending Fear requires you ditching fear and replacing her with someone else. YOU! Have you checked you out lately!? You Rock! Once you really believe in yourself and how awesome you are, you won't have to be afraid of being yourself. Accept who you are, and embrace what makes you different, and fear can't stop you!
4. Reach forward – Always remind yourself of your awesome future. Be positive and always looking for ways to improve or get better at what you're good at. Focusing on building your skills and talents will allow you to be more confident when you're doing your thing! Keep your eyes on the prize because focus puts fear in the run.
Remember these steps to Unfriending fear and propel your life in to the fierce, free and fabulous life you were meant to have! As always, don't forget your confidence!
Here's to you being you,