If you’ve been following our blog posts for a while you’ve probably noticed a trend. Wear Your Confidence only addresses women! Confidence and self-love aren’t just women-centered trends, they’re for everyone! So today I want to talk to the guys out there about wearing their confidence and understanding the difference between cockiness and confidence because I’ve noticed that the two are often confused (at least in my personal experience, they are). I want to use two celebrities to illustrate my point and acknowledge the differences between being confident and being arrogant; Kanye West and Jaden Smith.
For as long as he has been in the spotlight, Kanye West has been regarded as a very talented rapper and musician, but he has also been categorized as a cocky and arrogant celebrity based on the statements he makes about himself and the way he carries himself. I think it is important for men (just as women) to carry themselves with confidence and a sense of self assurance, but in my opinion, Kanye crosses that line. In the limelight, he believes himself to be God-like and often portrays himself as religious and spiritual figures. While many of his fans find his persona to be alluring and praise him for his actions, others could argue that Kanye possibly lacks humility and modesty. Of course, one has to take into account the fact that many celebrities behave a certain way in front of paparazzi and cameras for notoriety and are not, in fact, the way that Hollywood has made them out to be, but it wouldn’t surprise me if Kanye West truly thought of himself as a higher being than the rest of the world. No matter how talented you are, and obviously Kanye is talented, you are no better than anyone else and shouldn’t treat yourself or others as such.
On the other end of the spectrum, we have Jaden Smith who has recently been featured in the Louis Vuitton Women’s ad campaign. While this new addition to their campaign has received mixed reviews from consumers and non consumers alike, I personally think that it’s awesome that Jaden is confident enough to tear down gender norms and express himself in a way that he feels comfortable. There is no real rhyme or reason as to why most clothing has been designated “mens” or “womens” wear given that gender is socially constructed. With recent campaigns to deconstruct the gender norms surrounding toys, I am excited to see that clothing companies are following suit and taking baby steps to say, “Boo gender norms” and allowing people to confidently express who they are. If Jaden Smith can literally wear his confidence, so can other men! I’m not saying to go out and buy dresses necessarily, but do what makes you feel confident and feel like the best version of yourself!
I think that sometimes as a society we focus so much on building women’s confidence because women are most often victims of low self-esteem (due to society!), but there are definitely guys out there who could use a confidence boost. So if you’re a guy reading this, you, too, are beautiful and fearfully and wonderfully made. If you know a guy who struggles with self-love, encourage him! It won’t be a cure-all, but I can guarantee it’ll make him feel good about himself to hear that he is awesome and loved. Wear your confidence, guys!
Women are beautiful! I may be biased because I happen to be a woman, but we really are beautiful creatures and I’m always in awe just how amazing women are. Regardless of sexuality, I can guarantee that most women have checked out another woman at some point and maybe would say they have had a “girl crush” or “woman crush”. Before we get ahead of ourselves, I want to be clear in saying that I am not referring to women who usually like other women, this is for the women who like men but are confident enough to acknowledge the beauty in another woman.
So what is a girl/woman crush? Personally, I’d define it as a platonic admiration of another woman, whether it be internal or external. There are so many women doing great things on this planet that it is only natural to admire their handwork and accomplishments. Sometimes these crushes come in the form of a desire to be friends with her simply because you think she’s awesome; other times, it’s a general respect for her or maybe you view her as a role model. Any or all of these feelings could be described as a girl crush. The other side of the coin is a girl crush that is almost purely physical. As I stated earlier, women are gorgeous. A well-dressed, put together woman can be very appealing to men and women alike and it’s perfectly normal to acknowledge that some women are just plain hot.
Society spends a lot of time tearing women down instead of building us up, so it is up to us to do so! Magazine ads, commercials, and all other forms of media thrive off of putting women down so that we’ll feel compelled to buy some product that will “erase our flaws”. Many companies exist solely to profit from women’s insecurities and don’t strive to help women become naturally confident. This is why I believe it’s imperative that women stick together, form bonds, and compliment each other! No one else is going to do it for us, so we should do it for ourselves.
Make your friend your woman crush, perhaps on Wednesday, perhaps everyday. Tell her how amazing she is. Tell her she’s smokin’ hot! Tell her why she’s a fabulous and fierce diva. Tell her that she’s a star. A girl crush or woman crush is about uplifting other women. It’s about reminding other women of the gorgeous beings that they are, so don’t be ashamed if you have a woman crush on someone, whether it’s a friend, stranger or celebrity. Most women would be absolutely flattered to hear that another woman thinks she’s the bees knees, just as you probably would! Make someone your #wcw today, and if you aren’t into that, make yourself your own #wcw!