What's wrong with being confident? Nothing Demi Lovato, nothing at all! There’s nothing wrong with being confident and sure of yourself, but what happens when you don’t feel that way? Let’s be honest, we don’t always feel amazing and confident 100% of the time. I want to let you all know that it’s okay to not feel your absolute best all the time because we are human! And humans are fallible and can’t be expected to be our most perfect selves every hour of every day. I want to share 3 tips on being confident even when you don’t feel that way.
1. Think Positive Thoughts
Thoughts turn into words which turn into actions. Your thoughts play a vital role in the person that you are and present to the world, so if you find yourself thinking negative thoughts, there’s a good chance that your entire disposition could become negative. I know what you’re thinking, “Gigi, I can’t control my thoughts, they just happen!” and that is completely valid. When I say “Think positive thoughts” I mean change your negative thoughts into positive ones. Recognize when you’re thinking negatively about yourself and find a way to shift that thought into something positive. So the next time your brain says something silly like, “You’re so ugly and unintelligent”, think back, I am fearfully and wonderfully made and God made me in His beautiful image!
2. Say Positive Words
This is similar to thinking positive thoughts but instead, you are making a vocal and verbal declaration of confidence and self-love! Hearing words out loud can definitely be impactful if you’re not feeling confident. The world won’t always tell you how great you are, so it’s up to you to do so. Stand in front of the mirror and list a few positive affirmations each day if you have to! It’s important that you hear how wonderful you are, especially from yourself.
3. Hang Around Positive People
I cannot stress this one enough! Misery loves company, so if you are surrounding yourself with people who are constantly putting themselves or YOU down, you are going to be affected. Positivity is infectious! If the people in your social circles are positive and uplifting and confident, it will rub off on you. They’ll be there to pick you up when you’re feeling down and remind you of your strengths and what makes you great. No one wants to lose friends, but if your friends are perpetually negative energies and influencing you negatively, you may want to consider finding new friends that will encourage positivity.
4. BONUS!!! Hang Positive Words Around your Room/Locker/Office
Seeing positive words can absolutely build or bring back confidence! I’ve seen people graffiti on bathroom mirrors positive phrases about self-love and self-esteem. (I actually instagrammed it). Now I’m not suggesting you deface public property, but a post-it note here and there in your own space wouldn’t hurt. A poster in your bedroom or locker that promotes positivity could serve as a daily reminder that you are special and great! While it may be cliche, I have a framed portrait of the words, “Live Laugh Love” above my bed and it reminds me to do just that! Continue living, loving, laughing and enjoying life.
There is nothing wrong with being confident! There’s nothing wrong with loving yourself. Society thrives off of putting people, specifically women down so that they’ll feel bad about themselves, but when that happens, remember these tips! Surround yourself with positivity and God’s never-ending love!