Alright, I think it’s about time for a confession. I’ve got a crush on someone; in fact, I think at this point, I can safely say that I’m in love with someone. They’re smart, funny, good looking, generous, and fun to be around. If it were possible I’d marry this person, but unfortunately, there are laws against such a thing. The world isn’t the type of place where people can marry themselves yet! That’s right; I’m in love with myself, but it hasn’t always been this way.
When I say I’m in love with myself, I want to make it clear that I do not mean this in a narcissistic or conceited way. I mean that I love the woman that God has created and is continuing to make me to be. I’m in love with the person that I am and the things I have accomplished in my life thus far. I’m in love with my gifts and abilities, and I’m beginning to fall in love with my body and spirit.
It’s no secret to those that know me well, or anyone that has seen any of my social media accounts, that I’ve been single for a while now--like 23 years! This isn’t necessarily by choice, either. I’ve had plenty of legitimate crushes, and it has come to my recent attention that guys have had crushes on me; however, due to my low self-esteem, I’ve been unsuccessful in even starting a relationship of any type. Let me explain further. I used to think of myself as unapproachable, uninteresting, and unattractive because my confidence was deplorable. There’s a saying that basically states that one can’t expect others to love them until he or she learns to love themselves. That statement could not hold any more truth to it. When you don’t like yourself, others won’t always like you.
I’ve been called a “compliment-rejecter”, especially by guys that I have been interested in or that have been briefly interested in me. He might’ve told me that he likes my smile and I would rebut with “Ugh, but I’m missing two teeth and my gap is coming back”. While this statement is technically true, this is not the response he was looking for when he complimented what he believed was a “pretty smile”. A simple “thank you” would have been fine. When you say thank you to a compliment (especially one you may disagree with) you are owning it and accepting its truth. It’s one of the small steps I’ve taken in learning to love myself--saying thank you! It’s also been a step in the process of becoming more confident.
A confident girl does not believe she is better than everyone or anyone else; that is the definition of a conceited and cocky girl. A confident girl believes that she is just as good as everyone and anyone else. She knows who she is, understands her strengths and weaknesses (but doesn’t dwell on the latter), and she accepts compliments with grace and poise. She loves herself and is in love with herself because she knows that those are the keys to allowing someone else to love her.